This archive report was first published on 8 June 2020.
At 27, I've been married three times, but none of my marriages have been successful due to my inability to conceive. I've sought medical attention, but the issue persists, leaving me financially drained and emotionally troubled.
One reader, Tasma Saka, offered words of encouragement, suggesting that I give myself time to relax and figure out the real situation. They also hinted that I might be suffering from low sperm count, a condition that is manageable with good diet and mental preparedness.
Another reader, Kevin Moen, advised me to seek the help of a counsellor to navigate this difficult period with my wife. They also suggested that I see a different doctor for a second opinion.
Relationships counselor Simon Anyona offered a more philosophical approach, urging me to adopt a long-term perspective and a positive attitude. He cautioned against putting too much pressure on myself and suggested that I focus on appreciating and loving my partner, rather than just focusing on having children.
Lastly, Hilda Boke Mahare, a counsellor with a background in psychology, suggested that I consider adoption as an option, emphasizing that it's not about my folks' opinions, but about finding a solution that works for me and my wife.
