This archive report was first published on 6 June 2020.
On the surface, it may seem like a simple question, but the answer can have far-reaching consequences for a marriage. Did my wife cheat on me during courtship?
For a man in Nato, Mombasa, this question has become a source of turmoil in his relationship. He recently discovered that his wife, who he married after a courtship, had been visiting other men's houses before they got married. However, she was still a virgin when they married, and she confessed to him that she had not given in to their sexual advances.
While some may view this as cheating, others may see it as a harmless exploration of her body. The man is now struggling to come to terms with his wife's past behavior, and it's causing tension in their marriage.
Relationship experts weigh in on the issue, advising the couple to focus on the present and work towards a future together. They suggest that the man's jealousy may be the root cause of the problem, and that he needs to learn to trust his wife again.
As one reader puts it, 'If she went to visit other men and was still a virgin when you married her, what is your problem?' The man's fear of the unknown is causing him to dwell on the past, rather than living in the present and working towards a future with his wife.
Ultimately, the decision to forgive and move forward is up to the couple. But as one expert advises, 'If you still feel for her, you must forgive and move forward. But judging her as you attempt to establish a future for your family will be unproductive and a total waste of time.'
