This archive report was first published on 25 May 2020.
Imagine being in a loving marriage with four children, only to discover that your husband has been leading a double life. This is the painful reality for a woman who recently found out that her husband had asked her to have an abortion, only to later have a child with another woman.
According to the woman, her husband told her to terminate the pregnancy because they already had four children. She did as he asked, but later discovered that he had been unfaithful and had a child with another woman.
Now, the woman is left wondering whether to stay in the marriage or leave. Some readers have advised her to stay and work through the issues, while others have suggested that she should leave and start anew.
One reader, Willys Sifuna, wrote, 'Do not even think of leaving him especially because your children need to be within a family set-up and to experience parental love.'
Another reader, Ouma Ragumo – Sifuyo, advised the woman to 'make decisions knowing that you are a married woman and a mother of four children and you will always need to set a good example for your children.'
However, not everyone agrees that the woman should stay in the marriage. Simon Anyona, a relationships counsellor, wrote, 'Leaving will not solve anything, if anything it will only escalate the situation.'
As the woman navigates this difficult situation, she will need to consider the impact on her children and her own well-being. Ultimately, the decision to stay or leave will depend on her own personal circumstances and what she feels is best for her family.
Published on May 25, 2020
