This archive report was first published on 16 May 2020.
When you're in a relationship, there are certain unspoken rules that come with it. One of them is meeting the partner's family. But what happens when you've moved in together, and the parents are not aware of it?
For many young adults, cohabitation is not a big deal. However, for their parents, it can be a source of shame and discomfort. In some cultures, it's seen as a taboo, and parents often struggle to accept their adult children's relationships.
As the author of this piece so eloquently puts it, 'cohabitation is not a big deal' to young adults, but to their parents, it's a different story. The first thing that comes to mind is shame, and the fear of being seen as 'living in sin.'
It's not just about the parents' perception; it's also about the societal expectations. In many cultures, a woman's relationship status is tied to her family's reputation. If she's living with someone without being married, it's seen as a reflection of her family's values.
So, what's the solution? The author suggests that if you're in a relationship and you haven't exchanged dowry, it's best not to let the partner's family know that you're living together. It's not about hiding the truth, but about being mindful of the partner's family dynamics.
As the author notes, 'parents will understand that their daughter is a grown woman, who can make her own decisions, but only in writing. Not in practice.'
It's a poignant reminder that relationships are complex, and there are no easy answers. But by being aware of the unspoken rules and expectations, we can navigate these challenges with more empathy and understanding.
Published on May 16, 2020, by Magunga Williams.
