This archive report was first published on 7 May 2020.
Co-Parenting Gone Wrong ¶
When Zari Hassan and Diamond Platnumz's romantic relationship ended in 2018, it was a highly publicized breakup. The two had been together for a few years and had two children, Princess Tiffah and Prince Nillan. However, their relationship issues soon spilled over into the public eye, with Zari taking to social media to express her heartbreak on Valentine's Day of that year.
As the breakup played out in the public eye, Zari began to shift the narrative, portraying Diamond as a deadbeat dad who was neglecting his children. However, a closer look at the situation reveals a more complex dynamic.
After the breakup, Zari moved to South Africa with the children and demanded that Diamond make regular trips to see them. Diamond initially complied, but soon began to express his frustration with the cost and inconvenience of traveling back and forth between Tanzania and South Africa.
As the situation escalated, Diamond began to communicate with Zari through his lawyers, which Zari saw as a personal attack. She then began to run a narrative that Diamond was a neglectful father, despite the fact that he had allowed her to live in his house in South Africa for the sake of the children.
However, a closer look at the situation reveals that Zari's co-parenting style was emotionally abusive. By demanding that Diamond make regular trips to see the children, she was placing an unfair burden on him. And by refusing to bring the children to Tanzania to spend time with their father and his family, she was effectively cutting him off from his own children.
As one observer noted, 'co-parenting is about working together as parents to provide the best possible environment for your children. It's not about one parent trying to control the other or dictate how they should behave.'
Ultimately, Zari's co-parenting style was a recipe for emotional abuse. By refusing to meet Diamond halfway and work together as co-parents, she was causing unnecessary stress and tension in the relationship.
