This archive report was first published on 11 January 2020.
According to research, a woman's mood is the key to her desire for sex. In a study of 3,300 women over a 10-year period, scientists found that a woman's mood determines her desire for sex.
When a woman's spirit is elevated, she desires sex, but when it's foul or depressed, she loses desire and has no sex. This means that men need to know how to elevate their partner's mood to create a happy and fulfilling relationship.
Fortunately, most women confirm that there's nothing complicated that a man needs to do to elevate their partner's mood. All they want is to be sure that their partner loves and cares for them, and that they think about them in everything they do.
Esther, a middle-aged married lady, says, "All I want is to be sure that he loves and cares for me; that he thinks about me in everything he does." Mary adds, "Peace of mind, the knowledge that he understands me that I can come home after a difficult day and get a shoulder to lean on."
Men need to know the many ways of showing care, love, and understanding that most women so dearly value. Gifts, whether flowers, a dress, or just chocolate, are what matter for some women. For others, it's the acts of kindness and care that matter, such as serving them with tea, ironing their clothes, or washing the dishes because they're too tired.
Just one great act of care and kindness can be a game changer in some relationships. Other women just want the man around, not on their computers or watching football, but spending quality time with them. They want the man to talk to them, to listen to them.
Back to Sarah's case: after several therapy sessions, I arrived at a diagnosis - the relationship had become dry; there was no excitement. The couple no longer treated each other in any special way, no sweet words, no gifts, no spending time together. They were drawing apart emotionally. The mood was gone.
It took three months of therapy to recreate the lost intimacy. And with additional sex coaching, the couple was back on the path to exciting romance.
