This archive report was first published on 7 January 2020.
On a recent episode of The Morning Conversation, Andrew Kibe shared his thoughts on love, sparking a heated debate on social media.
According to Kibe, the concept of love we've been taught is largely influenced by soap operas and societal expectations. He believes that this idealized version of love is not only unrealistic but also damaging.
"You still believe in love? The love you believe in is the love you have been taught by the TV. These days guys tell their partners 'I love you' before you leave the house, which is not an African thing. We even tell our kids we love them, and it's not cute because that's what we've been taught. There is no reality in that," Kibe said.
Kibe, who has been married before, drew from his personal experience to illustrate his point. He noted that in the past, men would often go months without seeing their fathers, yet they turned out just fine. He believes that this kind of independence is what's missing in modern relationships.
"By the time we're hooking up, there's no room for survival in that relationship if it doesn't match what you've been taught. Us guys used to see our dads once a month, and we grew up without issues. This love is what's making people kill themselves," he added.
As a father himself, Kibe has had to adapt to the societal expectation of expressing love in a certain way. He noted that he now has to tell his child that he loves them, simply because that's what's expected.
