This archive report was first published on 29 December 2019.
As we approach the new year, many of us will make resolutions to improve ourselves, only to break them soon after. But for some, the pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming, leading to serious consequences.
Perfectionists often pride themselves on their high standards, but this 'all or nothing' approach can cause harm to themselves and others. They may struggle to build on mistakes, and anything short of perfection feels like a complete failure.
For those with perfectionist tendencies, even small setbacks can be devastating. Missing a single day of exercise or having a slip-up in a bad habit can feel like a relapse, leading to feelings of guilt and shame.
But the dangers of perfectionism go beyond just feelings of inadequacy. It can lead to mental health problems, such as depression, and even ruin relationships. Those who expect perfection from others may become overly critical, while those who try to live up to others' expectations may suffer from eating disorders or suicidal thoughts.
Many perfectionists also display symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder, such as an inability to tolerate mess or imperfection. They may put in excessive hours at work, chasing an ideal that only they can see.
So, if you're a perfectionist, it's time to take a step back and reassess your expectations. Try leaving work on time, allowing yourself multiple attempts to complete a task, and cutting your partner some slack. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself when you fall short.
Remember, building new habits takes time, and every step in the right direction is a success. By embracing imperfection and accepting ourselves as we are, we can create happier, more fulfilling lives.
