This archive report was first published on 28 December 2019.
As I reflect on the cases I've seen in the Sexology Clinic in 2019, one story that stands out is that of Brenda, a white American lady who was married to a Kenyan man. Her story is a stark reminder that relationships can take a turn for the worse, and it's essential to make bold decisions to salvage them.
Brenda met James in Washington DC just after Obama became President of the United States. They fell in love, got married within six months, and moved in together. James was 24 years old at the time, and Brenda was 28. They had three children and were in their eighth year of marriage when Brenda first visited the clinic in March 2019.
However, their troubles started when a woman walked into their home with a baby, claiming that James was her husband and refusing to give child support. James denied the allegations and was beaten up by the crowd. The child was later found to be James', and Brenda was left reeling from the betrayal.
"I still do not understand how a man I trusted so much could betray me so," Brenda said. "And he has the audacity to tell me that he was just being African, that African men cannot be imprisoned by one woman!"
Despite Brenda's initial reluctance, she eventually decided to divorce James and return to America with her children. Her story is a stark reminder that relationships can take a turn for the worse, and it's essential to make bold decisions to salvage them.
As the year comes to an end, it's time to reflect on your relationship and sex life, and make decisions you've been postponing. Don't let indecisiveness hold you back from taking bold steps towards a healthier and happier relationship.
