This archive report was first published on 14 December 2019.
Published on December 14, 2019, a writer shared a thought-provoking piece on the perils of over-investing in a relationship that may not be reciprocated.
While scrolling through the internet, the writer came across a love story that wasn't a love story. A woman shared how she met a man in 2014, curved him for a while, and eventually gave him a chance in 2018. The writer couldn't help but wonder why the man stayed with her for so long.
Men need to know when to walk away and when to never look back. This is a vital skill that many men seem to have forgotten. The writer shared a personal experience of being in a situation that they should have walked away from but didn't.
However, the writer emphasized that hitting on someone shouldn't be a game of Survivor or Amazing Race. When you realize you want someone, shoot your shot, send that risky text, or send that drink over. If she's interested, go on and court her as you please.
But, it's essential to make sure your effort is reciprocated. If she's not putting in any work on her end, it's going to be a long ride. Many times, it's a back-and-forth game, but sometimes she's genuinely not interested. You need to discern that quickly and move on as fast as you can.
Too many men are out here making grand gestures to get women to say yes to them when the women won't ever be into them. Does she only call you when she needs money or food? Does she only call you when she wants someone to take her shopping? Are you the tent pole she calls when she needs someone to take her places?
The writer learned that there's plenty of fish in the sea. The 'thrill of the chase' isn't in her saying no for years while using you, and you hoping your doormat behavior will open that door for you. Go look for another woman – one who actually likes you. I promise you, it works wonders!
