This archive report was first published on 25 November 2019.
As I reflect on my past relationships, I realize that I've been stuck in a cycle of unrequited love. Growing up, I was taught that men should approach women they're interested in, but this mindset has led to many missed opportunities.
According to the latest census results, women who don't take the first step in relationships are likely to be left behind. This realization has sparked a change in me, and I'm determined to break free from this cycle.
My experiences in college are a testament to this. I would go to great lengths to get the attention of someone I liked, even attending training sessions meant for engineering students just to be near him. However, my efforts were met with indifference, and I was left heartbroken.
One particular incident stands out in my mind. I took a matatu from Ongata Rongai to the CBD, just to call him and pretend to ask for directions. I was willing to go to great lengths to get his attention, but it was all for naught.
As I look back, I realize that I was blinded by my love for him. I was willing to overlook his flaws, including his drinking problem and reckless behavior. But despite my efforts, he never appreciated me or made any effort to reciprocate my feelings.
It's only recently that I've come to realize that I don't have to wait for someone to approach me. I can take the initiative and ask someone out. It's a liberating feeling, and I'm excited to see where this new approach will take me.
As I move forward, I'm determined to break the cycle of unrequited love. I'll approach anyone who catches my eye and ask them out on a date. It's time for me to take control of my love life and create my own happiness.
