This archive report was first published on 22 November 2019.
As the wedding season approaches, it's worth examining the role of money in modern-day relationships in Kenya.
While many couples recite the traditional vows 'for richer, for poorer,' it's clear that financial disparities can be a significant source of tension and conflict.
One common scenario is when a woman's income increases significantly, often due to her pursuing higher education or landing a better-paying job, while her partner struggles to keep up.
Take the case of Nana and Don, who were both lecturers at a university. Nana's salary tripled after she graduated and landed a job at an NGO, while Don's income remained stagnant. The couple's financial differences eventually led to their breakup.
Another example is Beniah and Vumbi, who were living in a rented house in Langata. When Beniah suggested they move to Ngara, Vumbi refused, but eventually, she was forced to return to Ngara after her business was robbed. Beniah's infidelity and lack of ambition further strained their relationship.
Even in cases where the woman is the breadwinner, financial disparities can still cause tension. Edward and Daniella, for instance, had a significant income gap, with Daniella earning Sh200,000 net salary as a marketing executive, while Edward struggled to make ends meet as a video store owner.
As these examples illustrate, financial issues can be a major contributor to relationship breakdowns in modern-day Kenya. It's essential for couples to communicate openly and honestly about their financial expectations and goals to avoid conflicts and build a stronger, more sustainable partnership.
