This archive report was first published on 13 November 2019.
Published on November 13, 2019, a conversation with a male colleague, Brayo, shed light on the 'wifey box' men place women in once they graduate from being girlfriends to wives.
Brayo complained about his friend's side chick because she was acting like 'a wife' and had started nagging him. He narrated, 'When I go to my clande's (mistress/side chick) house, she first welcomes me and asks me what I would want to have. In contrast, my wife will not even notice I've come home.'
Brayo suggested that women should learn a thing or two from the side chick, who meets a need the wife isn't meeting or is too busy to. He said, 'Women should learn a thing or two from the other woman.'
The side chick's secrets to winning over a married man include being fun to hang around, affirming him, taking an interest in what he loves, not judging him, taking care of her body, being submissive, enjoying the simple pleasures of life, rarely rejecting his sexual advances, and having perfect timing.
These lessons are a wake-up call for 'goat wives' who think they have a monopoly on their husbands' love and attention. The side chick has nothing on them, except for meeting their man's needs and his craving for admiration and respect.
