This archive report was first published on 4 November 2019.
Published on November 4, 2019
Marriage is a significant milestone in many cultures, but for some individuals, it remains an elusive goal. In Kenya, there are those who struggle to maintain long-term marriages, leading to speculation about their fate. Are they jinxed, unlucky, or do they have unpleasant personalities?
Philemon Koech, a 42-year-old man from Olenguruone, Nakuru County, is one such individual. Despite his best efforts, his five marriages have all ended in divorce. His relatives, concerned about his situation, decided to intervene and perform an exorcism ritual to rid him of the alleged demons responsible for his marital woes.
However, the ritual went awry, and Koech stormed out, refusing to continue with the ceremony. The elders, feeling disrespected, threatened to curse him. This incident raises questions about the nature of serial divorcees: are they jinxed, unlucky, or do they have unpleasant personalities?
Ken, a 46-year-old civil servant, is another example of someone who has struggled with marriage. Despite his best efforts, his three marriages have all ended in divorce. He attributes his failed marriages to his own personal issues, stating that he is perhaps not wired for marriage.
Robert Oloo, an unmarried man in his early 40s, believes that marriage and children are not the only sources of happiness and fulfillment in life. He suggests that individuals can find happiness and support from various sources, including family, friends, and hobbies.
Issac Miriti, a counselling psychologist, agrees that there are many other valuable types of relationships that can provide happiness and satisfaction. He notes that some individuals may find more happiness in their passions, such as sports or hobbies, than in romantic relationships.
Virginia, a 42-year-old single mother, has also had a negative experience with marriage. After a nasty breakup with her baby daddy, she promised herself never to get married. She believes that her lifestyle, which allows her to focus on personal development and independence, is more fulfilling than marriage.
These stories highlight the complexities of marriage and relationships in Kenya. While some individuals struggle to maintain long-term marriages, others find happiness and fulfillment in alternative relationships and lifestyles.
