This archive report was first published on 26 October 2019.
With schools closed for the holidays, parents are now faced with the responsibility of ensuring their children's sexual safety around other children and adults. This is a critical aspect of parenting that cannot be overlooked.
According to Maggie Gitu, a Marriage, Family & Sex Therapist, parents must have a plan in place to protect their children's sexual safety. This plan should include affirming their love and welcome, articulating the rules and expectations, acting on any concerns or disclosures, and associating with a village of trusted individuals who can provide support and guidance.
One of the key aspects of this plan is to affirm to your child that they are loved and welcome, and that they are missed when they are away. This can be done through enthusiastic greetings, asking about their day, and expressing excitement about spending time together. As Maggie Gitu notes, the most important thing your children want to know is whether they fill you with joy and are welcome in your home and life.
Articulating the rules and expectations is also crucial. This includes setting clear boundaries and expectations for behavior, such as not touching private parts or engaging in certain activities. Parents should also articulate their hopes, concerns, and instructions to their children, and make sure they understand the importance of reporting any concerns or disclosures.
Acting on any concerns or disclosures is also critical. Parents should respond to their child's concerns, listen to their fears and worries, and take action to address any issues. This may involve asking questions, providing guidance, or seeking support from other trusted individuals.
Finally, associating with a village of trusted individuals is essential. This includes building relationships with family members, friends, and other caregivers who can provide support and guidance. Parents should also alert these individuals to the importance of their role in their child's sexual safety and invite them to join their village.
Maggie Gitu is a Marriage, Family & Sex Therapist (MAMFT) and can be reached at or on Instagram @maggiethetherapist.
