This archive report was first published on 25 October 2019.
Recognizing the Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship or Marriage ¶
Published on October 25, 2019
Abusive relationships or marriages can be emotionally and physically draining, with signs including forced sex, dominance, and belittling.
- Forced sex or being made to feel like you're only there to satisfy your spouse's needs.
- Being dominated in all decision-making processes, with your opinion not mattering.
- Being ordered around instead of being asked politely.
- Being insulted and mocked about your body, yet still expected to provide sex.
- Being ridiculed and belittled by your spouse and their friends or family.
- Being called hurtful names designed to lower your self-esteem.
- Being cheated on and then being made to feel worthless.
- Feeling like being in the relationship has damaged your self-esteem and confidence.
- Being denied the opportunity to pursue your goals and dreams.
- Being silenced when you try to speak up, with your spouse telling you you're not educated enough or that you have no say in the matter.
- Working hard in the family business but being denied access to the money, with your spouse controlling the finances.
- Being physically harmed through violence, such as armtwisting, hair pulling, slapping, or being thrown objects.
- Being blamed for the pain you're experiencing.
- Having your tears ignored when you cry.
- Having to beg your spouse for assistance, such as money, just to show you that you're nothing without them.
- Being abandoned in public and left to fend for yourself.
- Being denied the opportunity to worship and grow spiritually.
- Being ridiculed about how you raise your children and being left to parent alone.
- Having your secrets used against you to attack you.
- Being belittled about your job, family background, economic status, or educational level.
- Receiving phone calls and text messages that leave you feeling fearful and anxious.
- Being cut off from your friends and family by your spouse.
- Being shown contempt through actions such as pointing, pushing, or public shaming.
- Being constantly told you're worthless and can never do anything right.
- Feeling scared and uneasy in the presence of your spouse.
