This archive report was first published on 23 October 2019.
Keeping love alive in a marriage requires effort and commitment from both partners. According to Dr Margaret Kagwe, a Counselling Psychologist, every couple is unique, and there's no single formula for a successful marriage.
Dr Kagwe emphasizes the importance of resolving conflicts as soon as they occur, as cold war can breed contempt and kill a relationship. She advises couples to try out new experiences together, spend quality time together, and maintain routines and family rituals.
She also stresses the need for communication, making having fun together a habit, and owning each other's dreams. Dr Kagwe warns against comparing one's relationship with others and instead focuses on creating one's own magic.
She advises couples to work on themselves, bringing the best version of themselves to the relationship, and not focusing on changing their partner to suit their needs. Dr Kagwe also highlights the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's weaknesses, strengths, and shortcomings.
Dr Kagwe identifies some common reasons why marriages fail, including marrying for the wrong reasons, poor conflict resolution approaches, and unpreparedness. She notes that too much attention is often given to preparation for the wedding, while little attention is paid to the marriage itself.
Published on October 23, 2019.
