This archive report was first published on 7 October 2019.
As a Christian couple, you and your wife are called to be the light and salt of your community and circle of friends. However, when your wife wants to revive a fellowship ministry with friends who are immoral and drunkards, you may find yourself at a crossroads.
According to a recent email to a relationship expert, the couple has been married since December 2018 and has been facing challenges in their relationship. The wife was a youth leader in her former church and a praise and worship minister, while the husband was an active member of his church and a leader in the youth ministry.
However, due to a busy work schedule, the husband is no longer an active leader in church, and his wife has started to pursue her own interests, including reviving a fellowship ministry with some of his old friends. Unfortunately, these friends are not serious about their walk in Christ and are known to be immoral and drunkards.
When the husband voiced his reservations, his wife accused him of being insecure and informed him that she would go ahead and form the group. The couple is now not in good terms, and they are struggling to find a solution to their dilemma.
As a Christian couple, you and your wife are called to be ambassadors of the God who has called you to faith. You are sent to those still living in sin to tell them about Christ, but you are also called to avoid sin and embrace righteousness.
The question then is, what are you afraid of? Also, what are you called to live for? You and your wife should be on the same page before you move ahead, sharing your fears openly and listening to each other's concerns.
Before your wife reaches out to these friends, set ground rules on what is or is not acceptable behavior to avoid compromising your faith. You should never run away from your call to lead others to God, and your faith must be grounded on what you believe in.
Remember that your wife will need your support in this, and you should affirm each other's passion and desire to understand each other's point of view. If you fail to do this, the very thing that brought you together could just be the one that separates you.
