This archive report was first published on 5 October 2019.
Optimism is a hallmark of the Kenyan spirit, with 70% of us reportedly holding onto hope for a better future. However, when it comes to love, perhaps it's time to dial down the positivity and face reality.
A recent encounter with a woman who was dating a man already in a relationship highlighted the issue. Despite the obvious signs, she continued to justify her situation, making excuses for his lack of commitment.
It's a common phenomenon, with many women attributing a man's disinterest to his busy schedule, fear of rejection, or even their own perceived intimidation. However, the truth is often far more straightforward: if a man wants to be with you, he will make a move.
A high-profile corporate woman I spoke to recently was shocked when a gateman she had been interacting with asked her out on a coffee date. It was a clear indication that he was interested, and she was taken aback by his boldness.
So, what's the takeaway? If a man wants to date you, he will try. And if he's not making an effort, it's time to stop looking for excuses and face the reality of the situation.
It's a lesson that applies not just to romantic relationships but also to other areas of life. A man who wants to cheat will do so, regardless of how attractive or charming you may be.
Ultimately, it's time to stop trying to change ourselves to fit someone else's ideal and start embracing our true selves. As the saying goes, 'nothing can keep someone who doesn't want to be kept.'
