This archive report was first published on 30 September 2019.
At 22, David has been in a six-month relationship with his 21-year-old girlfriend. Recently, she called him, saying she needed time to think critically about their relationship. She also revealed that she didn't feel romantic love towards him, suggesting he give her time to decide.
David is torn, unsure whether to wait for her decision or move on. He confesses that he loves her deeply and can't imagine loving another girl the way he loves her.
Several readers have weighed in on the situation, offering varying advice. Dolly Olimba suggests talking to his girlfriend to resolve the stalemate and ask for time if he's not ready to propose. Tasma Saka advises David to move on, as his girlfriend has likely found someone else. Onyango Outha also recommends forgetting about his girlfriend and exploring the world.
Lisette Machoka cautions David against tying himself down too early, suggesting he focus on personal growth and exploration. She believes he'll find someone who shares his dreams.
Relationship expert Hilda Boke Mahari offers a nuanced perspective, praising David's girlfriend for her honesty. She advises David to respect his girlfriend's decision and not force the relationship. Boke also encourages David to focus on self-love and not be desperate, as desperation can lead to manipulation.
Simon Anyona, a relationships counsellor, suggests that David's girlfriend may be trying to take control of the relationship. He advises David to move on with his life, pursue success, and not appear desperate. When his girlfriend returns, David should have things on his own terms, allowing him to critically evaluate the relationship.
Published on September 30, 2019.
