This archive report was first published on 25 September 2019.
Published on September 25, 2019, a common phenomenon in relationships is the friends with benefits (FWB) trap, where individuals engage in intimate relationships without emotional commitment. This can be a result of various factors, including a desire to have fun, forget past sorrows, or hope that the partner might change their mind over time.
However, the end result is often filled with tears as the supposed partner moves on with someone else. To avoid falling into this trap, it's essential to be aware of the signs and take proactive steps to maintain emotional control and clarity of intentions.
Do Not Sleep with Them Too Soon ¶
When it comes to curving in to his demands, do not be too quick to give in as soon as he sends the 'what you doing' text. Hold on until you are sure that you both want the same thing. Having sex on the first day or too soon after meeting might also send the wrong message- mostly that you are only interested in intimacy.
Stay Busy ¶
Do not focus all your time and energy on a situation that will lead nowhere. Be selfish with your time and only invest it in those who want to spend their time with you without conditions. It is common for some partners to stop appreciating your attention and instead end up treating you like trash.
Replace Him as Soon as Possible ¶
Just like everything has an expiration date, so do flirting. The moment you figure out that both of you want different things, feel free to ghost him and move on, or even better, spend the time on yourself. Keeping the guy around for too long will most probably result in regrets as your intentions are not conforming.
Hit It and Run ¶
If you have a moment of weakness and end up in his bed, leave immediately after and lose his number. Despite how awesome the moment was, do not lose your focus. Take this as a mistake that was never meant to happen. He does not want you the way you want him.
Keep Your Options Open ¶
The both of you might have been talking for months on end but do not chase away other men under the pretense that you are in a relationship or there is a potential of being in one. There should be no string attached. Go on dates with other people and spend time with other people who value you and want to commit to you.
Be the Ice Queen ¶
Avoid treating him like your boyfriend. Men who want to waste your time always come off as romantic from the face value. Do not fall for him at any point. Remain cold hearted towards him as this will slowly push him away and make him lose interest.
