This archive report was first published on 16 July 2019.
Marriage is a journey that requires self-discovery, patience, and a willingness to learn from one's mistakes. A woman from Nairobi, who got married young and later divorced, shares her hard-won wisdom on what she wishes she had known before tying the knot.
Published on July 16, 2019, her letter is a candid and terrifying account of her experiences, offering valuable insights for those considering marriage.
"If I'm being completely honest, the twenty something year old girl in this picture had a million expectations getting into marriage…wueh. Today I can look back and laugh at myself and at those expectations," she writes.
She recalls having high expectations and ignoring red flags, but ultimately realizing that marriage is not about getting what you want, but about giving to your partner. "You don't get married to GET, you get married to GIVE…Marriage isn't for YOU," she emphasizes.
Her advice is to discover oneself, know one's identity in Christ, and have a fulfilling life before becoming someone's wife. "Be content, Be satisfied, Be FULL within YOURSELF. Nobody carries YOUR identity, self worth and security. That's on YOU," she advises.
She also stresses the importance of setting high standards and not settling for less than one deserves. "Gosh set your standards so high, even you are terrified. Because why? You are a child of the most High God and you deserve the best," she writes.
Ultimately, her message is one of caution and wisdom, urging readers to wait and seek God's guidance before making a decision that can alter the course of their lives.
