This archive report was first published on 13 July 2019.
Understanding Loss and Grief ¶
Loss is a common season in any relationship, and it can manifest in various forms, including the loss of a loved one, a dream, or a meaningful relationship. It's essential to acknowledge that a loss is a loss, regardless of its form, and that it's okay to feel the depth of pain associated with it.
When experiencing loss, it's common to feel vulnerable, and combining this vulnerability with the need for physical and emotional intimacy in sex can be overwhelming. However, it's crucial to remember that sex is not a solution to numb the pain, but rather a way to awaken and connect with oneself and one's partner.
Allowing Yourself to Grieve ¶
Grief is a process that involves denial, bargaining, anger, depression, forgiveness, and acceptance. It's essential to allow yourself the necessary time to feel your loss and move forward. This process can be challenging, but it's a necessary step towards healing and growth.
On the other hand, some people may experience an increased sexual appetite during this time. This is not something to be ashamed of, but rather a natural response to the need for connection and 'aliveness'.
Seeking Support ¶
If your grief is causing you to behave in a way that violates your own sense of right and wrong, it's essential to seek the support of a mental health professional. They can provide guidance and support to help you navigate this challenging time.
Ultimately, it's essential to remember that loss and grief are a natural part of life, and that it's okay to feel the pain associated with them. By acknowledging and addressing this pain, you can begin to heal and move forward in a meaningful way.
