This archive report was first published on 20 July 2020.
Healing After a Breakup: Finding Closure and Moving Forward ¶
Breaking up with a long-term partner can be a difficult and emotional experience, especially when it's your first marriage. Karen, a woman who recently went through a divorce, is struggling to come to terms with the end of her five-year relationship.
According to Evelyn Wanjiku, a reader who responded to Karen's question, 'it will be beneficial to you if you learn to take care of yourself and rediscover yourself after this break-up.' This is a crucial step in the healing process, as it allows individuals to focus on their own well-being and move forward from the relationship.
However, as Ouma Ragumo – Sifuyo points out, 'women will always take time to accept and deal with broken relationships.' This is because they often invest their emotions and energy into the relationship, making it harder to let go. It's essential to be patient and kind to oneself during this time, allowing oneself to heal and move forward at one's own pace.
Boke, a counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology, offers some valuable advice to Karen. 'Shut the world's voices out,' she says. 'Rid yourself of every societal pressure. They do not know what you went through.' This is a reminder that societal expectations and pressures can be overwhelming, and it's essential to focus on one's own needs and feelings.
Simon, a relationships counsellor, also offers some guidance. 'Divorce or breakup from a long-term relationship is always difficult,' he says. 'Everybody who loses a loved one through a divorce or separation experiences similar feelings also including regret, resentment and emotional insecurity.' This is a reminder that breakups can be challenging, but with the right support and mindset, individuals can heal and move forward.
Ultimately, healing after a breakup requires patience, self-care, and a willingness to move forward. It's essential to focus on one's own needs and feelings, rather than trying to meet the expectations of others. With time, support, and a positive mindset, individuals can find closure and move forward into a brighter future.
Preserved Dates: Published on July 20, 2020
