This archive report was first published on 18 July 2020.
Why Women Love and Lust After Unavailable Men ¶
July 18, 2020
Women often find themselves drawn to men who are emotionally or physically unavailable, but what drives this behavior? According to psychologists, women who fall for unavailable men are driven by a subconscious need to recreate the past and make a happier ending.
Titus Munalo, a 32-year-old man, recently found himself in this situation. He had been chasing a woman for years, but she had always turned him down. However, after he got married, she suddenly warmed up to him and started sending him messages and calling him at odd hours.
Titus's wife was not happy about this development, and he was left puzzled by the sudden change in the woman's behavior. He realized that he was still the same person she had rejected before, but now that he was in a relationship, she wanted him.
Psychologist Dr. Seth Meyers writes in his book 'Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome' that women who fall for unavailable men are driven by a subconscious need to recreate the past and make a happier ending. He believes that these women have insecurities and rejections in their past, and when they set their sights on an unavailable man, they see it as validation and a chance to prove themselves worthy.
However, not all women who chase unavailable men have deep-seated issues. Some may simply be drawn to the thrill of the chase or the excitement of being with a man who is not fully committed. Diana Serah, a 28-year-old lingerie business owner, shares that she sometimes dates men who are taken or have busy lives because it's less of a hassle and more exciting.
So, how can you spot a man who is emotionally unavailable? According to experts, a man who is unavailable will be vague about his relationship status, may not refer to you as his girlfriend, and may have periods of vanishing and resurfacing without explanation. He may also rely heavily on technology for communication and may admit to dating multiple women at the same time.
While it may be tempting to try to tame an unavailable man, it's often a near-impossible task that can lead to hurt and disappointment. Instead, it's essential to recognize the signs of emotional unavailability and move on before getting too invested.
