This archive report was first published on 17 July 2020.
On a recent morning show on Classic 105, Mwalimu King'angi sparked a conversation about the dynamics of long-term marriages.
Hosts posed the question: 'At what point does your partner start looking like your sibling?'
'Wives start sleeping in Sengenge ni ngombe t-shirts and snoring,' Mwalimu King'angi said. He emphasized that as time passes, emotions fade, and it becomes natural for couples to lose their spark. According to Mwalimu King'angi, this is why couples are often advised to spice things up in their marriage. He also noted that women often give up on themselves, adding weight and losing their sense of identity. Men, Mwalimu King'angi said, tend to prioritize their relationships and often give up first.
Many men took to social media to share their thoughts on the matter.
One user, @Ngugi_Wathiongo, said: 'If you stay together with your wife/husband holistically, you even look similar. Mnafanananga Sura na tabia... that means no room for hurting her and you live to solve things together for life.'
Another user, @pieremutongah27, noted: 'When both genders are dating, they are on their best foot and will always do their best to look good and stay apart but once they get married wote wanajiwachilia. Not women only.'
And @ItsMwangiKelvyn commented: 'Marriages nowadays is like a house with no curtain, everyone can see through. Can't divorce but living together reason being children.'
However, not everyone agreed with Mwalimu King'angi's views. @jennykanyiri asked: 'If you are seeing your marriage partner as a sister then what was the reason of getting married to her from the word go?'
