This archive report was first published on 13 July 2020.
Confessions: I think my neighbour is cheating on his wife, how can I tell her what I know? ¶
Published on July 13, 2020
A housewife in Eldoret has been observing her neighbour's suspicious behaviour, and is unsure how to inform the wife without appearing to be spying.
Nasimiyu, the concerned housewife, wrote to the Standard's advice column, seeking guidance on how to approach the situation. She explained that she has been noticing her neighbour's husband coming home during the day, often at lunchtime, and that the househelp seems to be expecting him.
Nasimiyu is worried that something 'fishy' is going on, and wants to help the wife, but is not close to her. She is unsure how to inform the wife without appearing to be spying or meddling in their business.
Several readers responded to Nasimiyu's query, offering their advice on how to handle the situation. Some suggested that she should not get involved, as it could lead to fierce hatred and animosity in the neighbourhood. Others advised her to be cautious and not to accuse the husband without concrete evidence.
Simon, a relationships counsellor, suggested that Nasimiyu should let the wife know casually that her husband comes home midday, and see if she is in the know about this. He also advised her to take a neutral position, as the wife may not appreciate her interference.
Boke, a counsellor with a background in psychology, advised Nasimiyu to restrain herself and not to get involved in the situation. She suggested that the wife will soon notice the husband's behaviour and take action, and that Nasimiyu should focus on her own life and not worry about her neighbour's business.
Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to inform the wife is up to Nasimiyu. However, it is clear that she is concerned about the situation and wants to help the wife, but is unsure how to approach it without appearing to be spying or meddling.
