This archive report was first published on 6 July 2020.
Confessions: How to Express Feelings to a Friend Who May Be the Woman of Your Dreams ¶
Published on July 6, 2020
Alvin, a man in his mid-twenties, has been friends with a beautiful and intelligent woman for two months. He has developed strong feelings for her, but she sees him as a friend. Alvin is unsure of how to express his feelings and navigate the situation.
According to Tasma Saka, a reader who commented on the article, Alvin should take the initiative to express his feelings to the woman. Saka suggests that Alvin should tell the woman how he feels and give her the freedom to decide. Saka also advises Alvin to be prepared for any response and to maintain the friendship regardless of the outcome.
Ouma Rugumo-Sifuyo, another reader, suggests that Alvin should take the woman out on a date and express his feelings to her. Rugumo-Sifuyo also advises Alvin to look for the woman's close friends and pass his message to her, or to text her and wait for her reply.
Onyango Outha, a reader, suggests that Alvin should introduce the woman to his friends and close family members and tell her that he is serious about her. Outha also advises Alvin to take the lead in the relationship and to be confident in his approach.
However, not everyone agrees with these suggestions. Simon Anyona, a relationships counsellor, suggests that Alvin should take control of the relationship and steer it in his direction. Anyona advises Alvin to tell the woman how he feels and to give her time to think about it. Anyona also suggests that Alvin should find out if the woman only likes him as a friend and to look for love elsewhere if necessary.
Boke Mahare, a counsellor, suggests that Alvin should take his time and get to know the woman better. Mahare advises Alvin to learn about the woman's value system and to see if it is closer to his own. Mahare also suggests that Alvin should let the woman know how he feels and to give her the freedom to decide.
Ultimately, the decision of how to express feelings to a friend who may be the woman of your dreams is a personal one. Alvin should take the time to think about his feelings and to consider the advice of others before making a decision.
