This archive report was first published on 28 June 2020.
Seeking Guidance on a Past Mistake ¶
Thank you for reaching out to us with your concerns. You've shared a personal story about moving in with your fiancé a month before your church wedding, without informing the officiating pastor. This has left you feeling bothered and unsure about how to move forward.
As a Christian, you're driven by biblical values that govern marriage and relationships. Your conscience is now troubled because there's a conflict between your Christian beliefs and what you did. Many times, God brings us back to that conviction of needing to put things right.
You have two choices: you can either override what you feel and move on as though nothing happened, or you can come clean and agree with your husband that you erred. It's essential to revisit this issue and seek to heal, so the values that were violated are restored.
Remember, the truth is that people can be judgmental. Don't allow this to put you down. Focus on your desire to live by your beliefs and values.
Additionally, we've received another question from a reader who's facing a similar issue in their relationship. A 21-year-old woman is struggling with her 28-year-old boyfriend who refuses to discuss their problems and own up to his mistakes.
She's feeling discouraged because of some unresolved issues, and he gets defensive when she attempts to discuss them. He's even insinuated that they should break up six times, but she's unsure about what to do.
Lastly, we've also received a question from a 28-year-old man who's dating a 32-year-old woman. He's not bothered by their age difference, but she can't get over it, fearing that he'll be a laughing stock among his friends.
Age difference can be a significant factor in a relationship, but it's not the only thing that matters. What's essential is how you perceive, treat, and relate to each other.
