This archive report was first published on 28 June 2020.
June 28, 2020, marked a significant milestone for many single mums who ventured into the dating scene. According to experts, getting back to dating after a breakup can be an uphill task, but it's not impossible.
One of the key things to remember when dating as a single mum is to be straightforward with your intentions. This means being clear about what you want from the relationship and not playing games. Unless it's casual, aim to be with men whose intentions align with yours.
Being confident is also crucial when dating as a single mum. It's easy to feel unworthy of love after a breakup, but it's essential to work on your self-esteem and be confident in your skin. Let your suitor know that you're a single mum and express your expectations. They'd rather leave after seeing your seriousness than stay and waste your time.
Another important thing to remember is to leave your baggage out of the new relationship. It's common to find a new catch and shortly after, your ex ghosts come knocking, but you have the power to control your baggage. Deal with your past and set boundaries with your ex, even if co-parenting. Otherwise, you'll always lose everyone that comes your way because they can't keep up with your baggage.
Lastly, don't expect the suitor to play daddy to your child. Initially, these men are attracted to you and not necessarily your child. Give them time to adjust to the fact that you're a single mother and let them forge a relationship with your child slowly. Demanding money, gifts, and pouring all fatherly responsibilities on the man is a turn-off.
