This archive report was first published on 27 June 2020.
At 23, Samson is facing a dilemma that has left him stressed and uncertain about his future. His girlfriend, whom he has been dating for over four years, is from a different tribe, and his father has made it clear that he does not approve of their relationship.
According to Samson, his father's opposition is based on a long-held stereotype that women from this particular tribe are dishonest and cannot adapt to the harsh conditions of their rural area. However, Samson believes that his girlfriend is different and has been raised in a rural area, which he thinks should alleviate his father's concerns.
Samson's situation has sparked a lively debate among readers, with some offering advice on how to navigate the situation and others cautioning against rushing into marriage at a young age.
Magoto suggests that Samson be firm in his decision and remind his parents of failed marriages within their own tribe. He also advises Samson to involve his girlfriend in family activities and to let her befriend both parents, so they can get used to her.
Ouma Ragumo – Sifuyo cautions Samson to be extra sensitive in his decision-making, lest he loses his father's blessings for his marriage. She suggests that Samson try to understand his father's concerns and find ways to convince him, even if it means involving people he trusts.
Rev. Geoffrey Avudiko, Botwa, Kitale, advises Samson to take things slowly and to talk to his father one-on-one about his concerns. He suggests that Samson introduce his girlfriend to his father and let him get to know her better.
Janet Siranga believes that Samson and his girlfriend should be allowed to make their own decisions about their relationship, without interference from others. She suggests that they try to give their parents valid reasons for choosing each other.
Expert advice suggests that parents will always have an opinion on what is best for their children, but ultimately, it is up to Samson and his girlfriend to decide whether to break up or stay together. The key to prevailing and proving his father wrong is for both partners to be on the same page and to work together as a team.
