This archive report was first published on 23 June 2020.
As the COVID-19 pandemic continues to shrink the economy, many Kenyan men are facing the harsh reality of job loss. But what happens when the breadwinner loses his job? The consequences can be dire, with nearly 70% of men losing their wives and children within two years.
According to estimates, men between 25-40 who lose their jobs or means of income are at a high risk of losing their spouses and kids. The statistics are alarming, and the emotional toll it takes on families is even more devastating.
It's not just the financial strain that's the problem; it's the emotional toll it takes on men who feel like they're losing everything. The pressure to provide can be overwhelming, and when that fails, the relationship can begin to crumble.
As one expert notes, 'Once a woman starts to treat you with madharau, that is it. That is the end.' The line between unfair criticism and genuine concern can be thin, and men who are touchy may not see it.
So, what can men do to handle the situation? The first step is to distinguish between unfair criticism and genuine concern. If the spouse is cooperative and supportive, men should be humble and play good. If she starts madharau, men should start planning a future without her and be deliberate about it.
It's not easy, but men need to be proactive and take control of their situation. They need to find support from friends and relatives, cultivate good friendships and relations with their extended family, and keep their chin up.
As one expert advises, 'If you play well, one year from now, can be two years or three. Or even four, it will be a different story.' With the right mindset and support, men can navigate this challenging time and come out stronger on the other side.
