This archive report was first published on 20 June 2020.
June 20, 2020
A 22-year-old woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, has reached out to Nyakundi Report for advice on a sensitive matter. She has been seeing a man for two years, and while she believes he has a crush on her, her friend is also in love with him.
The woman, who goes by the pseudonym 'Jafiz,' met the man through her friend, and they have been close ever since. However, she is now torn between her feelings for the man and her loyalty to her friend.
According to Rev. Avudiko Geoffrey, a reader from Botwa, Kitale, 'this is a case of two ladies in love with one guy who seems undecided or is a player.' He advises Jafiz to be strong and find out what the man wants, and if he chooses her, to talk to her friend and make her understand.
John Wambugu, another reader, suggests that Jafiz's friend may not be aware that the man is her lover, and that the man may be playing both women. He advises Jafiz to sit down with her friend and tell her the truth, and if she is a true friend, she will let go.
However, an expert advice suggests that Jafiz should consider the dynamic at play and not reveal her feelings to the man just yet. The expert advises her to maintain the bond she has with the man and not try to own him or make their relationship official until he says something.
