This archive report was first published on 12 June 2020.
As we navigate the challenges of the COVID-19 pandemic, many of us are experiencing a decrease in libido. According to a recent Zoom meeting with Chama members, this is a common issue affecting many couples.
"Nightfall has become depressing for many of us since corona started; depressing because we know our partners will demand sex yet we do not feel like it," said the chair lady, highlighting the emotional toll of this issue.
During the meeting, I emphasized the importance of understanding the reasons behind this decrease in libido. Research suggests that men are giving sex more attention and want to have it more due to having more time at home, while women's libido has not increased as much.
It's essential to recognize that women's sexual desire varies from one week to another, unlike men who tend to have the same desire throughout the month. This disparity can lead to conflict in relationships if not addressed.
Desire may also be influenced by the sexual behavior and style developed over the years. Couples may form patterns that are disrupted by the pandemic, leading to conflict and discordance in desire.
Low desire may arise from dissatisfaction with experience, and sexual dysfunction such as erection failure, premature ejaculation, or inability to orgasm may manifest more during this time.
Relationship problems are a prevalent killer of sex drive, as women's sexuality is closely linked to their psychological state. If a woman is not happy with her partner, it's unlikely that she will desire to have sex with him unless the problem is solved.
Stress, job losses, reduced income, and fatigue of staying at home have become the order of the day, draining energy and depressing the mood, leading to psychological strain. A psychologically disturbed woman needs support, not sex.
Communication is the first important solution to this problem. Let your partner know that you love and care for him, and that you appreciate his love for you. Open communication can resolve the conflict and even improve sex desire.
Resolving any existing relationship problems is also crucial. Do not pile up problems and hard feelings towards your partner. Let him know that a woman's sexual feelings are closely associated with her psychological state, and that you would like to have a good relationship with him for a fulfilling sex life.
And for what you cannot solve on your own, talk to an expert. A sex counselor or therapist could be of great help in addressing individualized problems.
