This archive report was first published on 12 June 2020.
'She wants us to settle but I'm not ready yet' ¶
Published on June 12, 2020
A 25-year-old man, Clinton, is facing a dilemma. He has been dating a lady for three years, and they both graduated from the same campus last year. However, Clinton's life has taken a new turn, and he is now working in Nairobi. His girlfriend is pregnant, and Clinton is struggling to come to terms with his responsibilities.
Clinton's girlfriend wants them to settle down, but he is not ready. Recently, he met a younger lady, and he is falling in love with her. Clinton is worried about his child's future and is unsure of what to do.
Several readers have offered their advice on this matter. Janet Siranga suggests that Clinton should do the right thing and be with his child's mother. She argues that sending money is not enough and that Clinton's emotional support is crucial.
Another reader, Nyori Njuguna, advises Clinton to be honest with his family about his pregnancy. He suggests that Clinton should support his child and not be counted among the deadbeat fathers who sire children but vanish in thin air.
Lennis Muriuki also advises Clinton to be with the mother of his child. He argues that sending upkeep money is not enough and that Clinton should be with the person who is carrying his child.
Rev. Avudiko Geoffrey cautions Clinton against decamping from his relationship with his girlfriend to pursue a new relationship. He suggests that Clinton should sit down and come up with a sober plan concerning his relationship with the mother of his child.
Maurice Matheka, a relationship counsellor, offers expert advice. He suggests that people in relationships fall in and out of love all the time, and what matters is being honest about one's feelings to oneself and to one's partner.
