This archive report was first published on 12 June 2020.
Marriage, job, and friends – these are the things that porn addiction can cost you, as one man's story reveals.
At 15, Koech started visiting a cyber café in Ruiru, a small town where everyone knew each other. He would go there to access the internet, as he didn't have a phone. It was there that he first masturbated in a public place, an experience that would become a recurring habit.
As he grew older, Koech's visits to the cyber café became more frequent, eventually leading to his dismissal by the owner. He then turned to his own devices, using his laptop and smartphone to feed his addiction. Despite having a girlfriend and later a wife, Koech's urges only intensified, affecting his relationships and work life.
He spent 14-20 hours a week indulging in his habit, often during break times or in any available room. The consequences were severe: he lost his job, friends, and eventually his marriage. It was only then that Koech sought help.
His story is not unique. A study on internet use in Kenya found that after social media and betting, the next most searched topic is porn. Kenyans are among the world leaders in certain porn categories, according to PornHub. Most people are exposed to porn between the ages of 13-18.
With the widespread use of the internet, many men are grappling with this addiction in silence. The medical world does not universally recognize it as an addiction, and those afflicted often feel ashamed to confide in friends or family.
Church-based programs are available, but many feel they are judgmental and not accommodating to non-religious individuals. Psychologists who specialize in addiction are few and pricey, making it difficult for those in need to access help.
It's time to break the silence on porn addiction and raise awareness about the issue. By destigmatizing masturbation and creating non-judgmental spaces for conversation, we can help those struggling with this addiction to seek help and regain control over their lives.
