This archive report was first published on 31 August 2019.
As technology advances, we upgrade our devices to keep pace with the latest innovations. But what if it's time for a similar upgrade in the way we approach relationships and marriage?
According to Liza Shaw, an American marriage and family therapist, the traditional rules of marriage may be outdated and no longer suitable for modern times.
Shaw points out that when marriage was first invented, people lived shorter lives, and lifelong marriage was considered a proposition of 10-30 years at most. She suggests that carrying on the same principles of marriage from that time may be difficult and may explain why people struggle to maintain long-lasting relationships.
Shaw argues that certain rules that guided married life in the past may not be enough to sustain modern marriages. Continuing to follow these 'outdated' principles may lead to unhappiness, sadness, and disappointment for couples who struggle to achieve the ideal of being together forever.
Shaw suggests that some traditional marriage rules, such as 'people who love each other shouldn't hurt each other,' 'a happy marriage requires compromise,' and 'never go to bed angry,' may need to be revised or dropped in order for couples to find lasting happiness.
