This archive report was first published on 31 August 2019.
Published on August 31, 2019, by JOAN THATIAH, a writer for the Daily Nation.
When it comes to relationships, societal expectations often dictate that love should be the sole driving force behind a partnership. However, in reality, relationships are often transactional, with individuals seeking to meet various needs, including financial security, emotional support, or physical attraction.
For Joyce Akinyi, a 25-year-old Kenyan woman, her decision to appear on the reality TV show 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days has sparked intense debate. The show, which features Americans partnering with foreigners, has Joyce coupled up with Benjamin, a 33-year-old divorced father from Phoenix, Arizona.
As Benjamin traveled to Kenya to ask Joyce's parents for her hand in marriage, the internet erupted with criticism, with many assuming that Joyce had joined the show solely for the American dream – a green card and a better life.
However, this assumption raises questions about why people would use this against Joyce. What if she genuinely fell in love with Benjamin, or what if she was seeking a better life for herself and her family?
As Joan Thatiah notes, relationships are often about meeting needs, and financial security is just one of them. In a world where societal expectations often prioritize love over practicality, it's refreshing to see women like Joyce who are unapologetic about their desires and willing to take risks to achieve their goals.
