This archive report was first published on 26 August 2019.
Confessions: Should I keep this old man’s baby? ¶
Published on August 26, 2019
A 20-year-old woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, is facing a difficult decision. She is four months pregnant with a 52-year-old man's child, who has been paying her college fees and giving her pocket money for the past three years.
She is torn between her boyfriend, who has been her partner for three years, and the older man, who has been supporting her financially. The woman's parents cannot afford to pay her fees, and she did not want to be a burden to them.
However, the pregnancy is starting to show, and she is now confused about what to do. She loves her boyfriend but has not been intimate with him for four months. The older man, on the other hand, may not want to marry her, but he will likely support his child.
Relationships counsellor Simon Anyona advises the woman to act fast and make the right choices based on the kind of life she wants to live. He suggests that she talk to her 'sponsor' and tell him everything, and then disclose her current status to her boyfriend and see if he will still be interested in making her his wife.
Another relationships counsellor, Hilda Boke Mahare, warns the woman that she has made choices that have consequences. She advises her to take this as a learning experience and to cry over it if she needs to, but to carry the lessons with her.
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