This archive report was first published on 24 August 2019.
By JOAN THATIAH
Last Saturday, a friend of a friend had his traditional wedding, but the excitement was dampened by anxiety that his ex might show up to cause drama. The two had been together for nearly a decade, despite the fact that he was married to another woman when they met.
He had told her that he didn't sleep in the same bedroom with his wife, and that he was only with her because of the children. He promised to leave his wife for her, but only after she had his baby. She fell for his lies and got pregnant, but he disappeared as soon as she told him.
He reappeared a couple of years later with a new set of lies, and she fell for them again. She got pregnant a second time, but he disappeared once more. Now, she feels betrayed that she kept herself for him all these years, and he is now marrying someone else.
What's even more concerning is that she has been having babies with a man who keeps disappearing. It's a pattern of behavior that raises questions about her self-worth and her ability to prioritize her own needs in relationships.
As the author notes, 'any woman over 25 can fall for the flimsy lies of a married man is bad enough. That she can keep having babies with a man who keeps disappearing is even worse.'
The article goes on to caution women against rushing into relationships, and to encourage them to prioritize their own needs and self-worth. 'Have fun dating,' the author advises. 'When you head out, do so with the intention of meeting as many interesting men as possible. This way, you will not be overly excited at the first one that smiles your way.'
