This archive report was first published on 24 August 2019.
Sexual Healing: Why Sex Therapy Doesn't Always Work ¶
Published on August 24, 2019
Sex therapy can be a challenging and frustrating experience, especially when it doesn't seem to be working. However, there are often underlying reasons why therapy may not be yielding the desired results. Identifying these reasons can help individuals make the most of their therapy sessions and achieve their goals.
One common reason why sex therapy may not be working is unclear expectations. Many individuals who seek sex therapy are clear about what's not working in their bodies, lives, or relationships. However, they may not be clear about what they hope to gain from therapy. This can lead to frustration and a sense of not making progress.
To overcome this challenge, individuals can ask themselves three key questions: What brought me to therapy? What do I hope to get from therapy? How will I know that I've pinpointed the issue? By answering these questions, individuals can clarify their expectations and work with their therapist to achieve their goals.
Another reason why sex therapy may not be working is abdicated personal responsibility. Individuals may expect their therapist to do all the work, but therapy is a collaborative process that requires effort and commitment from both the individual and the therapist. If individuals are not willing to take ownership of their progress, they may feel frustrated and disappointed with the results.
To overcome this challenge, individuals can take ownership of their progress by engaging with their therapist, participating in their own care, and being honest about their feelings and concerns. This requires a willingness to be vulnerable and open with their therapist, which can be a challenging but ultimately rewarding experience.
Therapy is also a process that requires time and effort. Individuals may expect quick solutions, but therapy is a journey that requires patience and commitment. By understanding that therapy is a process and allowing it to take place, individuals can make the most of their therapy sessions and achieve their goals.
Finally, individuals may not be honest with themselves or their therapist, which can hinder the therapeutic process. Honesty is essential in therapy, and individuals must be willing to be open and vulnerable with their therapist in order to achieve their goals.
By identifying these common reasons why sex therapy may not be working, individuals can take steps to overcome them and make the most of their therapy sessions. By being clear about their expectations, taking ownership of their progress, being patient and committed, and being honest with themselves and their therapist, individuals can achieve their goals and experience the benefits of sex therapy.
