This archive report was first published on 20 August 2019.
With two young children and a business to run, a husband is at his wit's end, feeling that his wife is not pulling her weight in their marriage. They've been together for five years, but the husband's business ventures have not yet stabilized, and he's struggling to make ends meet.
His wife, on the other hand, spends her days lounging on the couch, watching Nigerian movies, and managing a business he started for her by phone. She's always eager to spend money, convinced that they're wealthy due to their comfortable lifestyle in an expensive neighborhood.
Published on August 20, 2019, a concerned reader, Muiruri, reached out to Evewoman.co.ke for advice on how to deal with his situation.
Boke, a counselling psychologist, suggested that Muiruri inquire about his wife's interests and motivations, and consider teaching her the value of hard work and entrepreneurship. She also recommended offering incentives for her to accomplish tasks and meet targets, and making her understand the impact of her actions on the family.
Simon, a relationships counsellor, took a more critical approach, suggesting that Muiruri's wife may not be cut out for business and that he may have inadvertently created a comfort zone for her by making her feel financially secure. He advised Muiruri to remove the emotional aspect from their business partnership and allocate her financial responsibilities, such as bills and household utilities.
Simon's advice was to mould his wife into the kind of person he wants her to be, rather than leaving the marriage. He emphasized that the results of not taking action would be fatal.
