This archive report was first published on 18 August 2019.
Divorce is a harsh reality for many couples. However, research suggests that there are certain habits that people who divorce often have in common.
Published on August 18, 2019, a relationship expert highlighted some of these unhealthy habits that can lead to the breakdown of a marriage.
One of the most common habits is poor communication. Many divorcing couples have never found ways to voice their frustrations, often due to an unbalanced relationship where one partner dominates the other.
Some couples may have talked about their problems at the beginning of their relationship, but eventually stopped. This can lead to one or both partners withdrawing and disengaging from the relationship.
Instead of finding ways to say what needs to be said, couples often resort to avoiding conflicts altogether. However, constructive arguing is a sign of a healthy relationship.
Another unhealthy habit is the presence of contempt and personal insults during fights. When couples start to scorn each other and use hurtful language, it can be a sign that the relationship is heading for trouble.
It's also essential for couples to keep talking politely and be sensitive to each other's needs and concerns. Poor communicators often assume the worst and don't discuss their fears, leading to a breakdown in trust.
Unrealistic expectations can also lead to divorce. Couples may think that getting married will fix all their problems or that exchanging vows means they can relax. However, the realities of married life can be a harsh wake-up call.
Divorcing couples often stop trying and give up on their relationship. This can be likened to getting a new job and then slacking off – you need to give your best to make it work.
Many couples also stop making sex a priority, leading to a loss of connection and eventually a break-up. Some may fear losing their individuality, but it's essential to maintain a balance between being 'us' and being 'me'.
Ultimately, couples who divorce often take each other for granted. Marriage is a work in progress, and the moment you stop appreciating each other is when things start going downhill.
So, if you see these habits in your marriage, it's essential to talk about them and seek help from a good counsellor before it's too late.
