This archive report was first published on 15 August 2019.
Rejection is a harsh reality that many people face, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. In a recent article, Meshack Yobbi shared his personal experience of being rejected by a woman who found his skin too soft.
She told him that she wanted a man built like a quarry, and his petroleum jelly skin wasn't her idea of how a man should look. This kind of rejection can be devastating, leaving the person feeling unworthy and unlovable.
However, as Yobbi pointed out, there are different types of rejections. Some are palatable, like being told that you're too good for someone or that you're too handsome. These rejections don't usually leave you with esteem issues.
But then there are rejections that come with ancestral thunder, like being told that your skin is too smooth or that you're not rugged enough. These rejections can be brutal and leave you feeling like you're not enough.
Yobbi's article highlights the importance of being aware of the impact of our words on others. When we reject someone, we should do so in a way that is kind and respectful. We shouldn't strip them down and leave them with questions about themselves.
As Yobbi said, 'If I reject you because of my personal preferences, I should not then strip you down and leave you with questions about yourself.' This is a powerful reminder that our words have the power to hurt or heal.
So, the next time you're faced with rejection, remember that it's okay to say no without being brutal. You can do so in a way that is kind and respectful, and that leaves the other person feeling valued and worthy.
