This archive report was first published on 4 August 2019.
5 Techniques to Make Someone Fall in Love with You ¶
According to a recent study of over 80,000 people, 28% of women and 48% of men claim they fell in love at first sight, while 72% of women and 52% of men fell gradually.
While there's no magic potion to make someone fall in love with you, science has identified several techniques that can increase the chances of falling in love.
Here are five techniques to make someone fall in love with you:
1. Be Easy to Get ¶
David Lieberman, a US expert in human behavior, suggests that the more you interact with someone, the more they'll like you.
Several studies have shown that repeated exposure to a stimulus makes us like it more, as long as our initial reaction is positive.
So, instead of being aloof or unavailable, find excuses to spend time with the person you fancy until you're convinced you've won them over.
2. Then Hard to Get ¶
Once you've established a connection with the person, start seeing them less and less until they hardly see you at all.
This is the Scarcity Principle, coined by researcher Robert Cialdini, which states that people value and desire something more when it's rare or difficult to obtain.
By making yourself scarce, you'll make the person you fancy more interested in you.
3. Don't Do Nice Things for Them, Let Them Do Nice Things for You ¶
When you do something nice for someone, it can create pressure to live up to being the wonderful person who inspired the gift or act.
Instead, let the person you fancy do nice things for you, and you'll be more likely to feel appreciated and valued.
4. Give Them the Eye ¶
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin discovered that couples who are deeply in love spend 75% of their time staring at each other when talking.
By giving the person you fancy the sensation of feeling in love, you can increase the chances of them falling in love with you.
5. Practise Pupillometrics ¶
According to pupillometrics, the science of pupil study, big pupils are the crucial element we respond to when it comes to attraction.
By reducing light and focusing on the person you fancy, you can create the right conditions to inspire large pupils and get the effect.
Remember, while these techniques can increase the chances of falling in love, they can't force someone to fall in love with you against their will.
