This archive report was first published on 2 August 2019.
As I reflect on life and sin, I'm reminded of the complexities of human relationships and the consequences of our actions. When a Kenyan man over 30 years old dies, five things happen, each revealing a different aspect of our society.
Firstly, his family, friends, and community grieve, a natural human reaction to loss. Grief is a difficult and painful experience, as I've learned from personal experience.
Secondly, those who owe him money or have guaranteed loans for him experience panic and anxiety. While formal debt is written off at demise, many men and their friends are entangled in a web of debt and property ownership that's difficult to untangle.
Thirdly, family and friends come together to plan the funeral and offer comfort, showcasing the beauty of community and love. These circles of family and friends are precious and valuable.
Fourthly, fake friends may momentarily pause their drinking, but ultimately, they continue as if the deceased never existed. They might speculate about the cause of death, often in a hurtful manner.
Lastly, the true size of a man's hidden family is revealed, often with shame and regret. Many men keep secret families from their overt family, which is unfair and selfish. However, it's understandable why they might hide their actions, given the potential consequences of revealing the truth.
It's essential for men to be honest with their spouses and acknowledge their children, providing for them and protecting their wife from predators who might seek to defraud her of their property. Writing a will and confessing sins can be a way to atone for past mistakes.
Ultimately, the best approach is to avoid sinning in the first place. If mistakes have been made, it's crucial to manage the drama and take responsibility, even from the grave.
