This archive report was first published on 27 July 2019.
On a typical day at the Sexology clinic, patients queue up to see the doctor, but one patient stood out - Daisy, a 35-year-old senior executive from a county. She walked in, refusing to pay consultation fees, insisting it wasn't a medical consultation.
Her authoritative presence was difficult to ignore, and her direct question - 'I want to have a baby without sex' - left the doctor, Joachim Osur, unsure how to respond.
After digging deeper into her history, Daisy revealed that she had been experiencing excruciating pain in her vagina since a teenager, and her attempts to have a relationship were frustrating due to her inability to have sex.
Diagnosed with vaginismus, a condition characterized by spontaneous and painful contractions of muscles around the vagina, Daisy was enrolled in a treatment programme that included therapy, pelvic exercises, graduated self-touching, and sex coaching.
Four months later, Daisy received an M-Pesa message from the doctor, announcing that she was pregnant. Despite having sex a few times during treatment, Daisy still had to complete the programme to ensure that sex was fully pleasurable for her.
According to the doctor, vaginismus is treatable, and up to 25 percent of women face sexual pain at some point in their lives, with some cases due to vaginismus.
