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The Silent Treatment: A Game of Power and Control

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Nyakundi Report

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This archive report was first published on 26 July 2019.

It's been 72 hours since Carol last spoke to him, and the reason is clear: he said something good about his baby mama.

Her last words to him were, 'The way you used to trash her! What changed?' before she shut up for good.

He tried to touch her, but she violently threw his hand away, leaving him feeling shocked by her fierce force.

When it comes to silent treatment, there is no equality between the sexes. He can't be silent to his woman without being labeled petty, but when she wants to be silent, she can punish him with ease.

He's tried to chat her up, but she's been showing him the door, saying, 'I'm not interested. Go to her.'

She banged the door in an act of extreme rudeness, leaving him seething in anger.

His friend George thinks he should return the favor, suggesting he go mum for a month and see who will blink first.

But Tom urges him to try and be persuasive, maybe by buying some flowers or a gift.

He's tried both approaches, but nothing seems to work.

He's come to realize that these games are not just limited to college kids, but are a common occurrence in many relationships.

As Tom says, 'The Bible says you should not let the sun set before you solve your differences. The longer it goes, the deeper it festers.'

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