A recent inquiry about the most unusual advice received during engagement and marriage preparations prompted reflection on the matter.
Upon consideration, the strangest advice given was to prioritize career over family, specifically future children. Several individuals cautioned against taking time off to raise children, warning that it would hinder career growth or lead to becoming a mundane housewife.
One such warning came from a brother-in-law, who advised against staying at home with children. However, the idea of personally raising one's children rather than relying on hired help seems reasonable.
Work-Life Balance and Parenting ¶
An example was given of a woman who had three children in as many years and spent more time at home than at work. It was claimed that she had limited prospects for promotion and would need to work for several years to recover her career, assuming she didn't become pregnant again.
The person offering this advice was unmarried and childless, raising questions about the validity of their claims. Having children in quick succession may not necessarily be career-ending.
It's possible that the recent trend of secondary school students engaging in destructive behavior, such as burning schools, is partly due to a lack of parental attention and prioritization.
When parents are overly focused on their careers, they may neglect their children's upbringing and attempt to compensate with material possessions. This can lead to a lack of discipline and respect for authority, as seen in the behavior of some students.
Parental Involvement and Discipline ¶
Raising children requires discipline and responsibility, which may be lacking when they are primarily cared for by househelp. While househelp can be beneficial, it's essential for parents to take an active role in disciplining and guiding their children.
Some parents seem to be afraid of their children, allowing them to behave poorly and disrespect authority figures. In contrast, being raised by strict parents can teach valuable lessons about respect, discipline, and responsibility.
The recovered account cited reporting by Nairobi News.
