This archive report was first published on 20 July 2019.
Breaking the Silence: How to Talk to Your Child About Sex ¶
Published on July 20, 2019
As a parent, it's natural to feel apprehensive about having 'the talk' with your child. However, it's essential to approach this conversation with honesty, empathy, and an open mind. In this article, we'll explore the importance of starting early, being honest, and identifying a supportive village to help your child navigate the complexities of sex and relationships.
It's never too early to have the sex talk with your child. In fact, children are exposed to sex and sexuality from a young age, and it's crucial to address their questions and concerns in a way that's both honest and age-appropriate. By paying attention to your child's cues and addressing their questions directly, you can create a safe and supportive environment for them to explore their feelings and desires.
Remember, no shaming is allowed. Your child deserves to receive information without the shame often attached to sex-related topics. By being honest and open, you can help your child develop a positive and healthy attitude towards sex and relationships.
Repeating yourself is essential when it comes to the sex talk. Children have limited attention spans and may not fully understand the complexities of sex and relationships. By regularly reminding your child about important topics, such as privacy and consent, you can help them internalize these values and develop a strong sense of self.
Identifying a supportive village is also crucial when it comes to the sex talk. In traditional African cultures, the sex talk was not the exclusive role of the parent. Instead, aunties, uncles, grandparents, and other trusted adults played a significant role in guiding children through this process. By identifying your village and creating a network of supportive individuals, you can provide your child with a safety net of people who can offer guidance and support.
Finally, remember that the sex talk is an ongoing process. It's essential to be patient, understanding, and open-minded as your child navigates the complexities of sex and relationships. By following these tips and creating a supportive environment, you can help your child develop a positive and healthy attitude towards sex and relationships.
As Maggie Gitu, a Marriage, Family & Sex Therapist, notes, 'the sex talk does not end.' By being proactive and approachable, you can help your child feel comfortable coming to you with questions and concerns. Remember, K.I.S.S: Keep It Short and Sweet. By keeping your sex talk simple, short, and sweet, you can help your child develop a positive and healthy attitude towards sex and relationships.
For more information and guidance, you can reach out to Maggie Gitu at or @MaggieTheTherapist on Instagram.
